Unforgettable Toys

Some people are turned off by the shape, texture or sound of a sex toy, while others find that using a toy, whether alone or with a partner, affects their natural sexual flow too much to be erotic.

The legend of the “vibrator miracle” is our favorite story: women who have never had an orgasm pick up a vibrator and have an earth-shaking climax the very first time they use it! These are true stories, believe me — we hear from these women every day. They write us, submit product reviews and thank us. We’re glad to hear from them, because

There are lot of sex toys to select from. Having bad results with one toy or not liking the feel or vibration level of another doesn’t mean you’ll hate them all. Everyone has different ways they like to be stimulated, touched or aroused.

Your sexual satisfaction, or lack thereof, may not be related to anything physical at all — sex and pleasure are as much about the brain as they are about the body. For you, it may be something as simple as altering your pre-pleasure routine. Perhaps you need to find a way to let go of the rest of the day, to relax and de-stress before you try to pleasure yourself or have your partner pleasure you. Try watching or reading books about this or taking a bath and fantasizing before your pleasure session.

Talk to your partner talk about things. Getting excited together about using a toy will make the experience fun for the both of you, regardless of whether the toy is a hit or a miss, work together to figure out what toys and stimulations will make you both feel great.

The most important thing to remember: whether you’re flying solo or with a co-pilot, sex toys, no matter how great they are, are only one part of sex.